I am taking the "seek without expectation" as a new mantra. The joy, the learning, the memory - they are in the journey: the pursuing, the trying and sometimes pushing oneself, as you so eloquently say. When we open up to that and not just the end goal, as you share, we probably have gained so much more than we would have. Thank you for sharing.
I've always thought of myself as spontaneous, but my therapist informed me today that I'm a planner, and dang it, she's right. Goals - and the pursuit of them - make me feel like I'm in control. LOL. I love the idea of shifting to seeking without expectation. This will be my mantra in 2025.
Chloe, you and me girl -- goals help me feel in control. I think you can have it both ways though -- holding the idea of goals and the security in feeling like you have some control (ha!) and also letting go of the expectation.
You always provoke such serious thought with your essays, Kaarin. I have been ruminating about where I am on the scale -- somewhere between you and your "dreamer" hubby. I do set goals sometimes (and I have a significant one this year), but I've found my approach to "new" cycles in life (new year on the calendar, new year after my birthday, etc.) is more about setting intentions of how I want to show up in the world. If the year has been particularly hard, it's usually about striving to let things go over which I have no control, for example. If I'm struggling with what I want to be and do, it's about reducing my tunnel vision, and opening myself up to opportunities when they appear or take just a little effort. So much has happened in my life that I didn't expect, both good and bad -- life requires so much response. Thanks for making me think more deeply about this topic.
Goal setter or not, your decisions always seem to be well thought out, and in the end, all we really have control over is our "intentions" isn't it? How we want to show up in the world. I think you've got it exactly right.
You know I’m a goal loving gal but the older I get the more I realize that it’s not about the striving, it’s the magic of telling the Universe, “This. This is what I want.” Then, we conspire to make it or something different (but better) happen. Love this piece of writing today!
I just love this, and especially the last line. I'm 1000% with you!
Sacha, Good on you. Life will definitely reward you for getting out there -- as you already know!
I am taking the "seek without expectation" as a new mantra. The joy, the learning, the memory - they are in the journey: the pursuing, the trying and sometimes pushing oneself, as you so eloquently say. When we open up to that and not just the end goal, as you share, we probably have gained so much more than we would have. Thank you for sharing.
Deb, thank YOU for reading and taking my words to heart.
I've always thought of myself as spontaneous, but my therapist informed me today that I'm a planner, and dang it, she's right. Goals - and the pursuit of them - make me feel like I'm in control. LOL. I love the idea of shifting to seeking without expectation. This will be my mantra in 2025.
Chloe, you and me girl -- goals help me feel in control. I think you can have it both ways though -- holding the idea of goals and the security in feeling like you have some control (ha!) and also letting go of the expectation.
You always provoke such serious thought with your essays, Kaarin. I have been ruminating about where I am on the scale -- somewhere between you and your "dreamer" hubby. I do set goals sometimes (and I have a significant one this year), but I've found my approach to "new" cycles in life (new year on the calendar, new year after my birthday, etc.) is more about setting intentions of how I want to show up in the world. If the year has been particularly hard, it's usually about striving to let things go over which I have no control, for example. If I'm struggling with what I want to be and do, it's about reducing my tunnel vision, and opening myself up to opportunities when they appear or take just a little effort. So much has happened in my life that I didn't expect, both good and bad -- life requires so much response. Thanks for making me think more deeply about this topic.
Goal setter or not, your decisions always seem to be well thought out, and in the end, all we really have control over is our "intentions" isn't it? How we want to show up in the world. I think you've got it exactly right.
You know I’m a goal loving gal but the older I get the more I realize that it’s not about the striving, it’s the magic of telling the Universe, “This. This is what I want.” Then, we conspire to make it or something different (but better) happen. Love this piece of writing today!
Thank you Laura!
you inspire me! now i need to turn the inspiration into action
Ha ha...You are one of the most "action-oriented" people I know....
Amen.
Thank you, David. I so appreciate you reading my posts.